I wrote about the privilege of modern self care before, but never as articulate as Zadie Smith put it in an interview (2018) with Arnon Grunberg. She talks about the privilege of focusing on your existential identity while others still have to make room for their political identity. In other words, there is no room to question the existential: "Who am I? What will my place be in this world?" If you are still making the world around you aware that the physical you, the political you is just as valuable and deserves the same autonomous reality that they know for themselves.